Definition of a Soulmate

I had in my mind to write this article for a long time. Especially having already talked about the topic in this previous post.
But only now, in this specific time of my life, I understood that I was really able to discuss the subject.

After all, how could I speak about soulmates if I didn’t meet one?
And I did, exactly 365 days ago.

You have probably often heard these words, in movies or in songs’ lyrics, but what does it really mean to meet a soul mate?
Who is this person that will be crossing your life’s path and you will be able to call in this special way?

Every day you meet thousands of people. Some will become friends, some will become partners, some will just pass by for a little time and go back to be perfect strangers.
But in the end, none of them will be able to touch you deeply.

Then, suddently one day you meet this single person and your life is changed. Forever.

I think a Soulmate is a person with whom you have an immediate connection, since the really first moment you meet.
This connection will feel so strong that you are drawn to this person in a way you never experienced before.

You will start to feel a bunch of new feelings and emotions.

As this connection grows over the time you experience a level of love so deep, strong and sometimes even complex, that you will start to even doubt if you have ever truly loved anyone before.

Suddenly everything works perfectly, smoothly.
You feel you can be the true version of yourself with this person.
No need to change yourself, adapt or accept things in a way that is not part of you.

This person is exactly like you and also different from you but in a way that completes you.

Your Soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level.
And you start to love this feeling because understanding is much deeper than knowing. In fact, there are many people that know you but there are really a few that can understand you.

This person will help you and challenge you to grow and achieve the better version of yourself.

These new feelings will bring in your life a sense of peace, calmness, and happiness when this person is next to you. You feel like you can let your guard down and be 100 percent yourself when you’re with this person.

A Soulmate is your best friend. Your teammate. The one person who you are comfortable showing the weird, awkward, twisted sides of yourself that you usually keep hidden around everyone else.

In your everyday life, you are used to wearing thousands of different masks. This, in order to show to other people the version of yourself they expect you to be, so that they can like you and accept you.
While with your Soulmate you can simply be the real version of yourself and being liked, accepted and loved exactly for being so.

The funny, thing is that you can’t really decide it to happen or not. It just does. It doesn’t matter in which situation of the moment of life you currently are.

It’s destiny.

Recently, while I was reading more about the topic I’ve found a Chinese myth related to the subject of soulmates. The legend of “The Red Thread of Fate”.

The Red Thread of Fate is a belief that comes from ancient Chinese lore:

“An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place, and circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle. But it will never break.”

It means that people who are destined to meet are tied together with an invisible Red Thread.
The legend has it that the two people connected by this thread will have a major story, regardless of the time, place or circumstances. The Red String might get tangled, contracted or stretched, as surely often happens, especially if destiny will bring you far away from each other, but it can never break.

When you meet your Soulmate, you fall in love involuntarily: it’s an incomparable, soul-awakening, knee-weakening, all-consuming adoration that will never be duplicated.
You intuitively know that this person is a natural extension of you, without warning, without effort, without compromises.
The attraction is wild. When you hold hands, there’s a palpable electric current, there’s a perfect fit.
When you find this person and this connection everything feels so natural, so smooth. Everything works so perfectly with both of you simply being the true version of yourself. And the feeling is so beautiful.

The amount of time you’ve been together doesn’t matter. The time you spent apart does.
But even when you’re apart, it still feels like you’re together, because energetically, you are.

Despite distance, time or other circumstances.

So… how do you know if you have met your soul mate?

I could simply tell you that if while you were reading my words you were thinking of a specific person, that’s probably the person.

While, if inside yourself you know that my words didn’t match your partner or did it partially, then it means that he or she isn’t your Soulmate.

And look that this is none fault and you shouln’t feed bad about it because is not really your decision who is your Soulmate.
It just happens because this is something that your soul feels, not something that your brain decides. It can’t be forced. Feelings can’t be forced.
And having such a connection isn’t neither a process. Or you will feel it straight away with a person or it will never happen. Your soul, your mind and your body will send you many signals. And then that’s simply your decision. If you want to listen to these signals or not.

That said, if at the end of the day, there is something that doesn’t make you feel right and that doesn’t make you sleep, then this is one of those signals. Is probably the red thread that is stretching and pinching your soul because your Soulmate is too far from you instead of being where should be. Next to you.

And you, have you met your Soulmate?

I did. 365 days ago. She is the most amazing, beautiful, caring person I have ever met. And is thanks to her that I had the inspiration to write this article.


The only people up at 3 am are in love, lonely, drunk,
or all three.

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